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Tips on motivating your child

Convincing your child to do things they don't want to do can be challenging. And making them stop doing the things you don't want them to do can be even trickier. Some kids are self-motivated, whilst others usually need a little push. If you’re looking for...

Communicating with your child at home

It is very important that you speak, read and write with your child in your native language. You are your child’s first and most important educator. Your child will benefit most from learning from you in the language you know best. Here are some ways you...

아이가 집안 일을 돕도록 하는 방법 (How to get your child to help around the house)

청소하는 것은 아이에게 있어 자연스럽게 하게 되는 것이 아닙니다. 아이가 가족 일원으로서 집을 청소하는 것은 가르침을 통해 형성될 수 있는 행동입니다.  그렇다면 우리 아들에게 청소를 재미있게 가르칠 수 있는 방법이 있을까요? 먼저 청소하기 게임을 만들어 볼까요. 종이쪽지에 해야 할 일들을 하나씩 적어 모자에 담습니다. 그리고...

如何让您的孩子帮忙做家务 (How to get your child to help around the house)

保持干净并不是孩子天生就会做的事。帮忙做家务,成为家庭团队的一员,是一种可以习得的行为。 把打扫卫生做成一个游戏。把任务写在纸上,然后放进帽子里。每个家庭成员在帽子里挑一个任务。在打扫卫生时,放些音乐,在房子里跳舞。让孩子们做一些容易完成的清洁任务,例如清洗脸盆或者掸去一、两张桌子上的灰尘。这更多是为了给您的孩子树立团队合作的榜样。 打扫卫生时可以一起度过一段美好时光,一起花时间掸去架子上的灰尘,或者一起用吸尘器“嗡嗡地”在房子里打扫房间, 打开计时器,看看您的孩子能多快地将自己的衣服放进柜子和抽屉里。 收拾玩具时,请走到您孩子的身边并告诉他们玩具放在哪里,动物园里的动物要放在哪个盒子或篮子里,毛绒玩具要放在哪里。如果父母告诉孩子们物品要放在哪里,他们会更有可能去收拾干净。这也会成为您与孩子的交谈时间,他们会告诉您他们生活中发生的事情,让您与孩子间的关系更加紧密。 您的孩子可以帮助购物,学习挑选水果与蔬菜。当您回到家时,您的孩子可以帮助您完成一些食物准备中的小任务。这些都是重要的生活技能。 考虑一下您的一周家庭常作息,看看适合全员参与的特定时间,促进家庭工作能顺利进行。一旦这个家庭作息实行,它便会成为您孩子的习惯。 “干脆我自己来做”听起来更容易一些,但是从长远看来,您的孩子可以学到社交技能,如何发挥主动性,并且学会团队合作的重要性。作为父母,我们的最终目标就是让孩子成为成熟、负责任、有爱心的成年人。   如果您想了解更多理解孩子与帮助孩子成长的相关内容,请拨打电话 9334 0111或发邮件至connect@thenortherncentre.org.au与我们联系,预约与我们的资深家庭工作者交谈,谈话内容将完全保密。...

How to get your child to help around the home

Being clean does not come naturally to children. Helping to clean up around the home, being part of the family team, is a behaviour that can be taught. Make a game of cleaning up. Write jobs on pieces of paper and put into a hat....

Why is my child perfectly behaved for everyone else but me

Many of us have learned social manners – to say “Please”, “Thank you”, “Sorry”. This is learned behaviour which we teach our children. As parents we role-model many behaviours, which our children learn within the home environment. The home is a place where children feel...

다른 사람에게는 완벽하게 행동하는 아이가 저에게는 그렇지 않은 이유는 무엇일까요? (Why is my child perfectly behaved for others and not me)

우리는 대부분 사회적 행동에 대해 배웁니다. 예를 들어, 부탁할 때, 고마움을 표현할 때, 그리고 사과를 할 때 어떻게 말해야 하는지를 배웁니다. 이를 학습 행동이라고 하며 우리는 아이에게 이것을 가르칩니다. 부모로서 우리는 많은 행동에 있어서 역할 모델 대상이 되며 우리 아이는 가정환경에서 이러한 행동을 배우게 됩니다....

为什么我的孩子在其他人面前表现得很好,在我面前却例外 (Why is my child perfectly behaved with everyone but me)

我们很多人都学过社交礼仪-说“请”、“谢谢”、“对不起”。这是我们教给孩子的习得。作为父母,我们为孩子在家庭环境中的学习树立了许多榜样。家是孩子自由表达情感的地方,无论这种情感是幸福快乐还是生气发怒。孩子们在学校或学前班里,不想显得与别人不太一样,他们想要融入进去。同伴压力开始出现。如果孩子不守规矩,老师会让他们承担后果。老师有师威,孩子就会在上课时守规矩,并且听从老师的具体指示。父母们经常会抱怨他们的孩子“在老师面前表现很好,但在我面前却不是这样”。老师非常关心每一个学生,但他们对每个学生的依恋没有母亲的依恋那样强烈。大多数情况下,妈妈是主要的照顾者,妈妈给予孩子无条件的爱。当您的孩子向您展现负面情绪时,这是因为您是他们宣泄一系列负面情绪的安全人选。安静下来时与您的孩子谈一谈他们的感受。有多种情绪是可以的,但重要的是教会他们如何在这种情绪下回应他人。告诉孩子你认为他们的感受是怎样的。不要尝试去解决他们的问题,如果有必要的话,可以之后再去解决。重要的是让您的孩子感受到自己得到了倾听。 作为父母,我们可能会一下子给孩子太多指导或者大量信息。尽量减少说话量,这样您的孩子就可以听到真正重要的内容,而不会感觉被过量信息淹没。少说话会缓和家庭气氛,让每个人都感觉到自己能被倾听。 还要考虑的是,您的孩子需要理解在家庭环境中对于可接受和不可接受行为的期望,例如,砰地一声关上门、在房子里不许扔东西、坐在餐桌旁吃晚饭。如果您的孩子选择逾越您所设定的界限,那就告诉他们不遵守这些规矩的后果。用“123魔法”育儿课程中的技巧,选择一种你希望孩子停止做的行为,比如说抱怨。与您的孩子选择一个安静的时间讨论一下,如果她开始抱怨,你就数到三(每个数之间停顿五秒),如果她不停止抱怨,就让她去静思区或者其他适当的方法如一天不让她玩电脑游戏(取决于不当行为的严重程度)。做好坚持完成这些惩罚方法的准备。 同样也要考虑一下家里谁做主。你做主,还是家庭成员以孩子的不当行为为中心,或希望获取关注?家庭是一个有着等级制度的团队-父母是家庭团队的教练和管理者。团队不需要围着一个人转,而是为了整个家庭的利益而共同努力。   如果您想了解更多理解孩子与帮助孩子成长的相关内容,请拨打电话 9334 0111或发邮件至connect@thenortherncentre.org.au与我们联系,预约与我们的资深家庭工作者交谈,谈话内容将完全保密。...

Building relationships with grandparents

Grandparents are cherished members of the family; their life experience and wisdom is invaluable. Many grandparents will say the love given and received from their grandchildren is a rewarding experience. They see their legacy continue through their beloved grandchildren. It can take time for some to...

Belonging and feeling accepted

There is a strong yearning within each of us to belong and be accepted, whether it be part of a family or a social group. Sadly, some people are not accepted in a group because of a disability, their sexuality or culture, social awkwardness, or...